21 Things I Learned In 21 Years

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21 things I’ve learned in 21 years 

Yesterday was my 21st birthday so I decided to share with you 21 lessons that I have learned. I am so thankful for the 21 years God has given me so far and for the life he blessed me with. Not everyday is always good, but there is good in everyday. I am so thankful for the people, places and things that have been apart of my life over the years and where God has me today.

  1. God is so Faithful -  God is always faithful and his promises still remain. No matter what season I’ve walked through God has unfailingly showed me grace, love and mercy. 

  2. Family is everything- This year, I joined a new family and started my own with my husband I was reminded how important family is. Spending time with my biggest blessings, my husband and son is so special and a gift. Being able to be with extended family and having them close is something I am so thankful for and I wouldn’t have been able to transition into motherhood so smoothly if it wasn’t for them. Its such a blessing to have unconditional love and people who love me and my son so fiercely. 

  3. There is no timeline of how things should be done - I learned that there is no set order of how things have to happen. God has his own plan for each of us and we all walk different paths at different seasons of life

  4. Kindness if the best policy - Being nice is always the best choice.

  5. Friendship is a gift - Having true friends who are there through everything and stand by your side is honestly such a gift. This year I learned who my true friends are and I am so thankful for them.

  6. Forgiving Others is so Important- Holding grudges only hurts the one hanging on to the hate. 

  7. Do not judge anyone - I learned you really never know what someone is going through and its just not your place to judge them.

  8. There is always a reason to smile - No matter what there is always something to smile about

  9. . It’s Okay to Fail - its okay to mess up becasue sometimes the mess ups teach us the most 

  10. God always has a plan- enough said

  11. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay - I learned to stop trying to be a people pleaser and understand that not everyone is going to like me and thats okay. 

  12. Enjoy everyday - there is joy to be found in each and every single day 

  13. Save as much as you can - this one can be pretty obvious but I learned how important it is not only to save money but sentimental things like photos and such 

  14. Always say yes to ice cream - enough said 

  15. Marry your best friend - Marrying Ethan was the best decision of my life because he truly is my best friend. Our home is always filled with laughing and jokes. Since we are best friends we are able to be silly and love each other so deeply. I can’t stress enough how thankful I am for him & the wonderful man that he is.

  16. Being a mom is the biggest blessing - Caeden makes everyday so much sweeter and being his mom is the best calling I have in life.

  17. Spend less time on the phone and more time in real life - I learned that I need to spend less on my phone and more time just present in the moment. To appreciate the people and things right in front of me in my everyday life. 

  18. Everyday is a gift - Tomorrow is never promised and there is value in every moment we are given. 

  19. Surround yourself with kind people- I once heard a quote that goes something like you become the people you spend the most time with. And I think its true. I learned how important it is to surround my self with kingdom builders, who are kind, loving, and uplifting! 

  20. Enjoy exactly where God has you- Time goes by so fast and before I knew it I was in a new season of life. It feels like one day I was a little kid and the next I was an adult raising a kid of my own. Life goes by in the blink of a eye so I learned to just appreciate exactly where I am today, because before I know it this season will change

  21. Do not sweat the small stuff- Life is way to short and to precious to get upset over little things.

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Truths You Need To Hear About Social Media

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The Truths You need to hear about social media


“I love what you do but sometimes I just feel like your joy and relationship with God is unobtainable” 

The other day one of my closest friends and I were hanging out and while we were talking about my online ministry she said that to me. And honestly I was really taken aback. 

I know her intention of saying it was not mean at all, but still I was caught off guard by the comment itself. 

It’s funny how one comment like that about yourself can really stick out and ring through your head.

When my friend said this, I know that she didn't mean anything rude by it or for it to come across with bad intention. I think a lot of people are skeptical about the content that influencers such as myself put out about their lives. I’m sure some people wonder as my friend did, is this really the reality they live in? That someone can’t truly be as joyful as they are in their pictures, right? Maybe it’s a struggle for onlookers because of the way people’s lives online are sold to us with perfect pictures plastered all over our instagram feeds. 

So here are some things to remember if maybe you feel skeptical about the way people present themselves on social media.

  1. Social media is a highlight reel. This is something I’v commonly heard said and it is 100% true. People are going to post things that they are proud of and the version of themselves they want shown to the world. You are going to see the happy moments, the good memories, and the moments of joy. You post things to remember, inspire or share. It’s way less common to see people posting things that are a low-light of their life. Your’e not going to share a video of you crying, or fighting with your sister, or a video of the break up you had with your boyfriend. I don't have any pictures of the pile of laundry I need to do, and I don’t have any videos posted courtesy of one of my and Ethan's arguments. 

So what I am trying to get at is this: Instagram and Facebook are all of the good moments we choose to share with the world. It might be bits and pieces of someones life, but not their whole story.

2. Comparison is a wrecking ball that swings both ways. This is a topic I've talked about in past blogs and podcasts and because comparison is so destructive. You can fall into one of two categories. You can either build yourself up, or tear someone else down (that someone could be you or someone else).  Both are sinful and you can never win. You get what you want, but someone gets the newer version. You start a new job and someone else gets a promotion. You learn a new instrument and someone makes a whole album. It’s a never ending never won battle. Because lets face it, there are tons and tons of people in the wold and there are always going to be people who have more or less then what you have. 

God didn't create us with the intention to ever bring anyone else down or tear down ourselves wishing we had more or were just slightly different. He created us to fiercely to love one another and to be uniquely made in our own way, each with our own purpose and plan.  God didn't make you to fit into her shoes, because he calls you to walk in your own 

Comparison allows a door to be opened that allows whispers of the enemy to creep in and cause you to believe lies. These are lies that contrast the truth the God made you wonderfully and fearfully and unique as yourself. 

3. Everything has a filter- I love lightroom and I’m a fan of a good filter just as much as the next girl, but it’s important to remember that most pictures posted on social media all have a filter over them. They are edited to be a bit brighter, more balanced, and vibrant than they were in the moment. The pictures shared are all enhanced in someway.  And more often than not, you usually have to take 10 or more pictures before getting a “postable" one. Everything from the right angles to finding good lighting goes into the final pictures we see on our phone screens. No one constantly lives in perfect lighting and looks like  a full snack 24/7. Everything you see is edited. From posts, captions, stories, videos and pictures. Filters and edits go into everything. 9 out of 10 times someone isn't going to show you their double chin pictures or bad lighting selfies. 

So what we see is real life, but it’s not reality. It’s just an enhanced version of it. 

I want to know how you feel and what you think about this. I want you to know that my life isn't perfect and my joy or relationship with God is not unobtainable. Because of being saved and know my savior I am able to have joy through difficulties because I know that my worth and identity comes from Christ Jesus. I know that I can be joyful because even when my circumstances aren't good, God still is.

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To Anyone Who Is Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

To Anyone Who Is Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

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To Anyone Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

You are made to do hard things with his help. He who started a good work in you will carry it to completion. (Philippians 1:6)

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I will be 100% honest. The other day I stood in the shower and for no reason just cried over feeling overwhelmed and inadequate. I’ve always struggled with never feeling like enough, but with so much change happening in my life recently, the enemy has really used it as a tool to try and distract me from God’s grace.

With all the busyness, rushing around, and stress brought on by college finals and the holiday season, simple things can become so overwhelming. One thing I learned is that everyone is busy. We all have so many things to get done, people to love on, goals to achieve, and places to be. So I think it’s relatable to say that being busy sometimes gets out of control.And with everything that needs to get done piling up, you might be left feeling like you aren’t good enough to fill the shoes you’re supposed to walk in.

I thought that after wedding planning settled down, life would settle down a bit and everything wouldn’t seem so busy, but I was dead wrong. Between juggling a new marriage, school, work, baby planning, and everyday life, it sometimes seems impossible to have a moment without something to do hanging over my head.

I told myself I could manage this all perfectly and to be able to schedule everything according to plan, but I was wrong. I set expectations for myself that are unrealistic and when I don’t meet them, they leave me feeling inadequate.

Note to self: don’t set unrealistic expectations of how things are supposed to work out.


So what God has shown me is that it’s not an issue with the things and responsibilities in my life, but it’s a mindset problem. There isn’t too much to do, or top big of a mountain to climb, because he never gives us more than we can handle.  And I’m sharing it with you because maybe it’s something you have struggled with to.

I think it’s so easy to get caught up in all the things the world says we have to be doing to be successful and happy, to overwhelm ourselves with different ideas and put unrealistic expectations that just lead to feeling less than enough.

One truth the bible talks to us about a lot is that we are loved and that we are more than enough in the eyes of God. (1 John)

I am someone who is all about overachieving, setting goals, and getting more done than what I intended. But sometimes I have to really check my heart and mind and remember why I’m doing the things I’m doing, and think about who I am living for.

At the end of the day all that matters is that I lived my day for Jesus, that I used the day to be his disciple and chose to follow Him and do my work with a servants heart. All the worldly standard and checklists I make for myself don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

So whenever I get overwhelmed and I start to feel like I’m not enough, I have to do a heart check and remember who He tells me I am.


Maybe it is something you struggle with to, maybe things overwhelm you or there are times when you feel like you aren’t enough. So if there are I invite you to take a step back and really examine your heart, ask yourself who you are really living for and remember that in his eyes you are more than enough.

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I just wanted to share this with you today to remind you that  You are enough, and your worth is not found in a completed to do list.

Be thankful for the people, things and responsibilities you have.

let That school work that is  hanging over your head serve as a remember that school work someone else might wish they had a opportunity someone else wishes they could be educated.

Let the job you begrudgingly go to everyday serve as a reminder that someone else wishes they could find work and provide for there family

 Know that, you are fully known and you are more than enough in his eyes.