To Anyone Who Is Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

To Anyone Who Is Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

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To Anyone Feeling Like They Are Not Enough

You are made to do hard things with his help. He who started a good work in you will carry it to completion. (Philippians 1:6)

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I will be 100% honest. The other day I stood in the shower and for no reason just cried over feeling overwhelmed and inadequate. I’ve always struggled with never feeling like enough, but with so much change happening in my life recently, the enemy has really used it as a tool to try and distract me from God’s grace.

With all the busyness, rushing around, and stress brought on by college finals and the holiday season, simple things can become so overwhelming. One thing I learned is that everyone is busy. We all have so many things to get done, people to love on, goals to achieve, and places to be. So I think it’s relatable to say that being busy sometimes gets out of control.And with everything that needs to get done piling up, you might be left feeling like you aren’t good enough to fill the shoes you’re supposed to walk in.

I thought that after wedding planning settled down, life would settle down a bit and everything wouldn’t seem so busy, but I was dead wrong. Between juggling a new marriage, school, work, baby planning, and everyday life, it sometimes seems impossible to have a moment without something to do hanging over my head.

I told myself I could manage this all perfectly and to be able to schedule everything according to plan, but I was wrong. I set expectations for myself that are unrealistic and when I don’t meet them, they leave me feeling inadequate.

Note to self: don’t set unrealistic expectations of how things are supposed to work out.

So what God has shown me is that it’s not an issue with the things and responsibilities in my life, but it’s a mindset problem. There isn’t too much to do, or top big of a mountain to climb, because he never gives us more than we can handle.  And I’m sharing it with you because maybe it’s something you have struggled with to.

I think it’s so easy to get caught up in all the things the world says we have to be doing to be successful and happy, to overwhelm ourselves with different ideas and put unrealistic expectations that just lead to feeling less than enough.

One truth the bible talks to us about a lot is that we are loved and that we are more than enough in the eyes of God. (1 John)

I am someone who is all about overachieving, setting goals, and getting more done than what I intended. But sometimes I have to really check my heart and mind and remember why I’m doing the things I’m doing, and think about who I am living for.

At the end of the day all that matters is that I lived my day for Jesus, that I used the day to be his disciple and chose to follow Him and do my work with a servants heart. All the worldly standard and checklists I make for myself don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

So whenever I get overwhelmed and I start to feel like I’m not enough, I have to do a heart check and remember who He tells me I am.

Maybe it is something you struggle with to, maybe things overwhelm you or there are times when you feel like you aren’t enough. So if there are I invite you to take a step back and really examine your heart, ask yourself who you are really living for and remember that in his eyes you are more than enough.


I just wanted to share this with you today to remind you that  You are enough, and your worth is not found in a completed to do list.

Be thankful for the people, things and responsibilities you have.

let That school work that is  hanging over your head serve as a remember that school work someone else might wish they had a opportunity someone else wishes they could be educated.

Let the job you begrudgingly go to everyday serve as a reminder that someone else wishes they could find work and provide for there family

 Know that, you are fully known and you are more than enough in his eyes.

5 tips of advice I would give to anyone struggling with purity in a relationship 

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5 tips of advice I would give to anyone struggling with purity in a relationship 

Let me start this off by saying, 

Been there, done that. I get it completely, the proof is in my 8 month pregnant belly. I am not here to come off as preachy or make you feel bad, but just to give you some real live advice and share some bible verses I wish someone would have shared with my husband and I when we first started dating. 

I have been open on my blog and Instagram about getting pregnant before being married, but I haven’t really addressed the topic of purity and pursuing Gods plan for a dating relationship.

Many of you have sent me tons of questions regarding the topic of staying pure in a relationship. After a season of repentance and spending lots of time in the word, I finally feel ready and know that God has put it on my heart to share some things with you about the topic of sex, purity and relationships. Some words of wisdom and bible verses I wish a friend or mentor would have shared with me that could have had the potential to stop me from falling into sin before it was to late.

I truthfully believe that the majority of people set out with good intentions. That when someone does something, they don’t begin the action with the intention to hurt or do wrong but sometimes somehow gets steered off course and good intentions are overshadowed by sin. 

As for Ethan and I, we both intended to wait till marriage to have sex. We wanted to follow God’s plan for a relationship and honor him. In fact, we had many conversations about not wanting to have sex with each other since we weren’t married and wanted to honor God. Initially, neither of us intended to engage physically with each other until the day we were married.

Physical boundaries are very important in a relationship. Once they get crossed, the line slowly keeps getting pushed back further and further and further until you’re at the point where you’ve crossed the line. 

It is easy to justify it to yourself when society condones and promotes having premarital sex. Or by listening to your friends talk about their experiences with their girlfriend or boyfriend. It’s easy to find ways to make it seem not so bad. And in some ways sexual sin is different then other types of sin, because sexual sin can usually be hidden or not talked about until one day it catches up to you and it can’t be hidden any longer. 

It has been really important for me to know and hear and understand that sin is sin. That we are all sinners in need of a savior. 

No one is immune to sin. We all fall short and mess up. Grace doesn't give us a free pass to knowingly sin. When we sin and we know its wrong but still do it any way, it’s a deliberately turning away from God. It is like saying Hey God, I know this isn’t what you want, I know its wrong but for whatever reason I am going to continue not to honor you and just do my own thing.  Jesus doesn’t condemn us, but he does call us to turn from sin and live by the word because it is the best way. 

Sex before marriage is wrong. The bible is so clear about it, there is no way we can say we are christ followers, live by the bible but still have sex outside of the covent of marriage. Because no matter how you want to look at it, its a sin. Sexual sin is a serious sin because it is a sin done within ones body. The body is a temple, because after coming to christ the holy spirt lives within us. We are told that we were bought at a price and are called to glorify God with our body. ( See 1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

If you are that person who has gone too far and crossed the line, you should know that you never run to far to be forgiven and redeemed with God’s love & grace.

Or if you are someone who didn’t cross that line, use this to learn from and as a precautionary tale or advice for any situation you may find yourself in, in the future. 

Here are some things I wish people would have told me 

1. Gods plan for a relationship is always better - No matter what, the way God designs relationship is better. The relationship he has for you and one that honors him is better then any you could chase after alone. The bible is pretty clear on sex, and not putting yourself in a position to have sex until you are under covent and married 

2. if you wouldn’t want to sit and tell your parents what your doing you shouldn't be doing it - enough said

3. don’t put yourself in situations where you will be tempted - this is pretty self explanatory, if you put your self in a situation where you are gonna have the chance to fall into sin, the enemy will do everything in his power to make you fall. Don't think you are strong enough to resist temptation, its designed to make you fall.

4. If this isn’t the person you are going to marry you will regret anything physical with them- My Husband and I feel so blessed that we were both virgins when we met and have only been with each other in that way but we had past relationships. Things as simple as holding hands or kissing are things we say we wish we could have just experienced for the first time together. when you are young, you think the person you are dating is who you will be with forever and thats not always the case. So the less you invest in them physically the more you are able to further protect your future spouses heart and your future marriage.

5. married sex is just the best sex - Sex is good, in fact it’s great, but only in the right contents God intended it for. God gave sex as a gift within the covent of marriage, intended to be shared between husband and wife as a bonding experience. If that gift is misused outside Gods purpose then it is not good, it can and will be painful, bring guilt and consequences.

Having sex, isn't just as simple as the act of sex. The bible teaches us that sex is really meaningful and meant to be between a husband and a wife after they have made a covent with God before witness and that they are one. It is a bonding experience where two people literally become “one flesh”. Its such a intimate experience and is beautiful when shared with the right person and in the right time.

If you have had sex before marriage, hope is not lost and you can be forgiven. God is a good father and he rejoices in our repentance and cleanses us from impurities. I know from my own walk and season of repentance, that God is merciful and a loving father. Once you walk away from sinning and start honoring God in your relationship, he will bless it beyond measure.

If you haven't had sex, are struggling with crossing boundaries I really encourage you to wait for the right time to enjoy the gift of sex. To wait on God’s timing and follow what the bible is clear about teaching.

Bible verses for referenced & to study if you struggle with this

1 corinthians 6

Hebrew 13:4

Galatians 5:19-21

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

1 corinthians 7:8-9

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

My wedding day- Becoming Mrs.Wescoe

Our wedding day

The day we said I do

I still cant believe that my wedding day has come and passed by so quickly. In the months of planning before hand it felt as if it would take forever until the day we both would say “I do.” But in the blink of an eye, November 16th arrived and would forever become the best day of my life.

I had been told by family and friends that the wedding day would fly by, and it truly did. Gods grace and love was so present on that day and he allowed everything to work out perfectly and better than I could have ever imagined.

The day before our wedding my amazing friends, brides maids, mother in law, baby sister, and husband all spent the day crafting together last minute decorations and creating the flower bouquets for our special day. I don't know what I would have done without the amazing bride tribe of people who helped out that day. Ethan was such an amazing helper as well. He was so involved with the wedding and helping everyone with every single detail. He was so present in the whole entire process.

Later that evening, we were supposed to have our rehearsal for our ceremony and also decorate the church so that everything would be up and ready to go the next day. Unfortunately, we had a freak snow storm that covered the roads with 8 inches of snow. So due to the unexpected snow storm, our rehearsal and decorating plans got canceled for that night. But God was in control and knew how to have everything work out for the best. My Maid of Honor and best friend, changed her flight due to a personal scheduling conflict from 10pm Thursday night to arrive at 12pm earlier that day. Her flight landed right before the snow started to fall.  

Thursday came and went in a blink of a eye. On Friday morning I woke up next to my best friend and maid of honor around 7am and could not fall back to sleep. I was so excited! I saw Ethan for a few minutes that morning before he left to go decorate the church and we took time to go to a quiet room and pray over the day and the life that God has planned for us. Then my friend picked me up and the brides maids and I headed off to get our nails done, and get lunch before going over to help with last min decorations at the church.

As soon as we started getting ready and my hair and makeup was getting done, it started to feel real. It finally felt like I was really a bride about to get married. From the moment I got into my dress till the end of the night seemed to go go by in a blurry blink of a eye.

We had our first look at 3 o’clock and then bridal party pictures afterwards before a quick rehearsal just before the ceremony. After our rehearsal the boys went to their room to wait for the wedding to start and the girls went to another room. Our amazing pastor came to both rooms separately and prayed over us. The prayer circle right before the wedding was one of my most special memories from that day. All the women and our pastor in the room said a prayer over me for Ethan and I and the life we were about to start together. It was really special and intimate and during the prayer circle there were many tears of joy. Then right before the ceremony, Ethan came down to the bridal room and prayed with me before we got ready to walk down the aisle.

Just moments before walking down the aisle to say I do, my brides maids and I prayed together outside the sanctuary as we waited for our cue to go. The whole day from the time I woke up, to getting ready throughout the day, to just moments of people pulling us aside to pray was covered by prayer and Gods love was really felt by everyone.

One of my most favorite and special moments of the day came when I walked down the aisle towards Ethan and he started to cry with such emotion! One of the things I love most about him is how loving, sweet, and sentimental he truly is. The ceremony was so beautiful and better then I could have ever imagined.

Our reception was filled with lots of sweet treats, dancing, love, and laughter. It seemed to pass us by so quickly as we spent the evening celebrating with the people who love us and whom we love dearly. We had our first dance, dinner, speeches, cake cutting, bouquets toss, dancing, and ended the night with a bubble send off. We left the church, got into our car and drove away to our honey moon still in a wedding gown and tux.

Needless to say it was and forever will be the best day of my life. I married my best friend, the most amazing man I could have ever asked for, and became apart of a beautiful family whom I love dearly. God has blessed us abundantly, and we are so excited for what he has in store for us.


All Pictures taken by Mary dalton